I had a client tell me, quietly, that she'd felt ashamed after a harsh comment about her colleagues in our previous session. She felt ashamed by her comment, by me having witnessed it and that she felt shame at all as that wasn't a compassionate way of being, which we were working on.
But as I told her, there is nothing wrong with feeling ashamed, or shame, or guilt, or anger or any of the other emotion labelled as 'negative' or 'bad'.
All our emotions serve a purpose, and the idea is to listen to them, not ignore them, avoid them, numb them or deny them.
If we're feeling something we label as negative, it's a good idea to listen to ourselves and tap into why and what we'd like to do about it, because all of emotions are signalling: Do more of this or do less of that.
As Shakespeare said: Nothing is neither good or bad, but thinking makes it so.
Your self-labelled negative emotions can be thought of as bad, as something to avoid or numb, or it could be seen as something good, to make the right decision or do the right thing, to live closer to your values and beliefs or change a behaviour.
Taking a step back when feeling or experiencing something negative and simply say 'this is neither good or bad, it just is what it is' and work with it from there, can give you the distance you need to not drown in your own emotions and create solutions.
Until next time, stay safe - and sane - and make kind choices!
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