There's an article going around in my network, telling the story of a therapist who told their client to put the dishwasher on twice and it was revolutionary to the client.
The client was really struggling with depression and everything felt overwhelming. He was bothered by not having rinsed his dishes and so they couldn't go in the machine and now they were piling up. The therapist said, there are no rules! Run the machine twice or three times to get them clean. Don't waste time beating yourself up for not following some arbitrary rule. Make your own.
The client did just that. Then he went on to showering lying down and he didn't fold his laundry after washing it.
And it created space in his head and it was healing.
Don't waste time on arbitrary rules of 'I should'. Who says? Does it matter?
Take shortcuts. Give yourself a break. Make your own rules.
Be kind to yourself!
Your life, your choice!
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