If someone sped past you, driving way too fast, in the city centre - how might you react?
Might you feel angry or disgusted? Might you raise your arms in protest? Might you judge?
What might lie behind such a reaction? Why did the event trigger you?
Maybe you believe that such a driver must be stupid and careless.
Maybe you're concerned about the dangers of driving like that.
Maybe you think the driver is a lame and embarrassing boy-racer.
Regardless, none of these preconceptions would be kind, right?
And what if the driver had stopped to engage?
Might you have yelled? Might it have felt justified?
What if the driver had yelled back, calling you an idiot?
How likely is it that your exchange would have been ineffective and unhelpful, leaving both of you feeling none the wiser about the other, but still fuming?
What if, instead, you'd calmly explained that, based on the way you've been raised, such driving is considered reckless and you worried about other people's safety and you said that you'd be curious to know more about the driver's own perspective and motivations?
What if he'd replied calmly how he saw the world, compared to you and even if you didn't agree, you'd learned a new perspective?
Might such communication have felt more effectively and build understanding, trust, connection and might you both have walked away a little bit wiser and a little less triggered?
Your life, your choice!
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