I was having a conversation with a friend of mine about vulnerability in leadership and the workplace. I was arguing for it - for role modelling that it's OK to be a flawed person to allow other people to also admit to their flaws and avoid mistakes and a work culture that silences people (like how horrible medical mistakes are made because people don't dare to speak up and lawsuit culture has made it so hard to admit to any wrongdoing - the book Black Box thinking has some great examples of this and how to counteract these cultures).
My friend didn't argue against this but made the point that there is such a thing as inappropriate and/or over-sharing.
I thought about it and agreed. But I also pointed out that there's a huge difference between admitting that you're feeling nervous delivering a presentation, for example, versus moaning about it and going into a whole 'all woe is me' scenario. Because that's not vulnerability, that's self-pity. There's a huge difference between being confidently vulnerable and owning your flaws compared to sharing feelings based on insecurities and anxiety.
I stand by my point but wish I could have made it better.
Then I read a quote by Brene Brown (THE vulnerability researcher of the world) and she said: "Vulnerability without boundaries is not vulnerability." And just like that, she's summed up my point in one sentence.
However, you certainly don't have to agree with either me or Brene Brown because it is after all -
Your life, your choice!
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