If you call me weird and I'm either not attached to that word or I'm proud of my weirdness, it won't bother me.
But if you call me stupid, as someone who grew up thinking I was and have invested a lot of time and effort into proving that I'm not but I still have my moments of doubt, this will trigger me.
So will public humiliation (bad attention) but not a surprise party (pleasant attention).
When you call me a name or judge me, it's not personal. It's about your own issues projected onto me. Your lack of knowledge, or manners, or set of rules you feel I've violated and since you're not allowed to violate them, nor am I.
Whether I accept your judgement and feel hurt it's my problem based on the story I tell myself of my shortcomings.
It's not personal - it's about projection, but whether you accept or reject the projection is your personal choice.
Your life, your choice!
This is a daily, micro-blog, taking less than 2 minutes to read, offering you insights into how presumptions, beliefs and stories shape our lives and worldview, for better or worse.