"Don't worry about the future; or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind; the kind that blindside you at 4 PM on some idle Tuesday." Buz Lurhmann's wise words in Everybody's Free to Wear Sunscreen.
Climate change and a pandemic are massive things to worry about and yet that's not what my clients bring to the sessions. They worry about dying alone, while surrounded by people just waiting to get to know them and be let in; worrying about being 'found out' despite being qualified for the job; about being unengaged parents while spending an undisturbed hour with me that could have been spent playing with said children; about what love could be instead of loving what they already have; worrying life is being wasted and making the wrong decision, so no decisions are made and life goes on being wasted; worrying about leaving a legacy instead of being kind - not least towards themselves, valuing perfectionism over compassion.
Meanwhile, the things that knock the wind out of people is when they're told on a random Tuesday at 4 PM that they've, unexpectedly, been made redundant. Or, they get the call that their partner has gone into hospital with a heart attack. Or, that there's been an accident at the nursery. Or, that lump in the breast you've been ignoring actually is something. Or, that your brother decided life wasn't worth living anymore.
It's when you're walking home from a date, worrying if you said the right thing, and a car mounts the curb at full speed. Or, worrying about the to-do list at work, while on the plane back from holiday and you're told to 'brace, brace, brace'.
Worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum.
Your life, your choice.
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