If there's a problem and you're wondering if you're the cause - the answer is probably yes.
But bear with me because it's not in the way that you think.
If you're the sort of person lying awake at night, worrying that you're the cause of a problem or drama, the likelihood is that you're taking on too much responsibility.
If you're the kind of person using words like 'blame' and 'fault' and they're turned towards yourself, chances are that you're also taking on too much responsibility.
But you're still the problem though!
Because your thinking is faulty.
You're not the problem because you've caused the problem.
You're the problem because you're making yourself the scapegoat of someone else's drama.
You can't control other people's feelings, thoughts or behaviours.
But what you can control is how you engage and how much you choose to torment yourself while they're busy living their lives and you're the one losing sleep.
Your life, your choice!
If you're new to this blog - welcome!
I do not proclaim to have any of the answers to this complicated thing we call life. The purpose of these blog posts is simply to make you think and then you can make up your own mind about life once you've stopped your auto-pilot living and paused to reflect.
I stand for and promote a culture of imperfection, generous contribution and radical kindness.
This is a daily, micro-blog, taking less than 2 minutes to read, offering you insights into how presumptions, beliefs and stories shape our lives and worldview, for better or worse.