We're told to set healthy boundaries for ourselves.
We're told to say no more.
We're told to practice self-care.
We're told to prioritise our own needs.
But, we're also told that being selfish is a heinous act!
Why have we demonised this word so much?
Is it really that we're scared of being selfish or is it that we like to have our egos stroked by coming across as selfless? The good guy! The generous! The benevolent!
Do we hold the word selfish over our own heads like a whip simply to virtue signal?
After all, self-care is selfish, setting boundaries is selfish, saying no when others want you to say yes is selfish, prioritising your own needs is selfish.
All these acts are needed selfishness if you want to have a healthy mind and life.
Is what we mean when we reject the word 'selfish' rather 'don't hurt or harm other people with your actions' or 'don't be egocentric'?
Self-consideration is OK. But just be honest with yourself if you fear 'selfish' for the right or the righteous reasons.
Your life, your choice!
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