When someone says something mean about you - especially if it's to your face - it's hard to not to take it personal. What else could it be?
I'll tell you: It's not about you. It's about them.
It's a manifestation of their own issues, projected on to you.
You now has a choice whether you take hold of this projection as if it belongs to you, or you reject it.
Likewise, when you react to someone - if they make you feel annoyed, for example - it's not actually about them, but you.
How can I know?
Because what you find annoying, another person won't.
What someone finds disgusting, someone else won't.
What you find unacceptable, someone else won't.
Why do you take it personally then?
Because whatever has been projected your way, has hit a nerve.
If you know you're hilarious and feel confident in this, you won't care if someone calls you not funny.
However, if you feel insecure about your looks and someone calls you ugly, you'll take it personal because it hit a nerve.
But for someone to judge you as ugly, they'll be struggling with their own issues around societal standards of beauty and they're projecting it on to you.
If they did not have their own issues around physical appearances, it'd never occur to them to call you ugly.
It's a 'them' problem, not a 'you' problem.
But if you're taking it personal, it's because you're making it a 'you' problem.
Until next time, stay safe - and sane - and make kind choices!
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