In my free e-book From Drama to Freedom, I write about the dangers of wanting to 'fix' others, of jumping in with advice and solutions when they haven't been requested, of the drama you create when you want to rescue others and the superiority you project by claiming you 'know the right answer', as if your answer is THE answer (get your free copy HERE).
Perfectionism does much the same.
When you think you know better, that your way is best, that your opinion matters above others, without it having been requested, when you can't get your art, your writing, your product or service out there because it's not 'perfect', when you fake it on social media or only show half of your life to friends and collauges and when your need for external validation becomes someone elses's responsibility, pause!
Pause to ask how your projections might make other people feel.
How your need for external validation might steal from someone else's energy.
How your half truths and photoshopped life might make someone else feel worse about themselves.
How your procrastination is preventing other people to learn, grow and be moved by your art, your writing, your service or product, or, allow them a voice as a collaborator, offering a different perspective of what good quality might look like.
Your perfectionist voice thinks its helpful. It wants to protect you. But it's isolating both you and others. When you show up imperfectly, you allow others to do the same. When you display your mistakes over your filtered Intas, you make others feel better about their mistakes too. When you include people in the decision making instead of just correcting them, you can make them feel empowered instead of shamed.
And who knows, maybe eventually, you'll stop being so mean to yourself as well.
Your life, your choice.
Until next time, stay safe - and sane - and be kind, to others and yourself.
After all, you're fucking amazing.
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