Big organisations, small businesses, romantic relationships, family dinners, the classroom... We bring disruptive energy into every space we enter, projecting our own insecurities onto others and then blaming them for what we see in them that is our own mirror reflection. We mix and match, bringing the frustration of work home, and the annoyances with the other half into the boardroom. We transfer our family interaction onto our patients, clients, customers and pupils. We read the news and rant on social media because our own limited viewpoint isn't reflected and holding others accountable for our lack of speaking up or making a difference.
We blame, we blame, we blame.
We point, we react, we judge.
But where is the act of taking responsibility for the energy we bring?
For the projections? For our inability to understand and manage our own emotions? For forcing our under-researched and bias opinions upon others?
To know what is your own hang-ups, insecurities, fears and problems is rare.
To notice when you project them instead of acknowledging them as our own is rarer.
Taking responsibility is seldom role modelled at home, at school, in governments or politics, on the news or social media.
How are we supposed to know better?
Because, we recognise it in others.
We blame others for doing 'it'.
We know what it looks like.
You looked at the image and thought: "I know someone who does that!"
But did you look at the image and think: "I do that!"?
When are you going to role model it yourself and be the change you wish to see?
Your life, your choice.
Until next time, stay safe - and sane - and be kind, to yourself and others.
After all, you're fucking brilliant!
This is a daily, micro-blog, taking less than 2 minutes to read, offering you insights into how presumptions, beliefs and stories shape our lives and worldview, for better or worse.