This is an odd message coming from me. I work in the industry of change, personal development and growth.
People seek out counsellors and life coaches to change.
And yet, they resistant.
They don't 'do the work'.
They stay stuck.
They blame themselves.
They get angry or sad.
They criticise themselves.
They cry, rage, rant, go in circles.
What if you've grown up never feeling good enough.
Always striving to improve.
Always being told to do better, try harder.
Never feeling understood or accepted.
What if this has made you so unhappy, that you now seek change.
Seek a better life, a happier life.
Seek a different way of being.
What if coming to see someone like me, offering you insights, suggestions, tools, strategies, options and tasks makes some part of you feel not good enough, yet again?
Not accepted as is.
What if your resistance is a small voice saying:
Accept me as I am!
Flaws and all.
What if you're seeking changed based on minimising the unacceptable part of yourself? The ugly? The sad? The stuck? The misunderstood? The unwanted? The rejected? The humiliated?
What if true transformation is to accept what is and not seek what could be?
Until next time, stay safe - and sane - and make kind choices!
This is a daily, micro-blog, taking less than 2 minutes to read, offering you insights into how presumptions, beliefs and stories shape our lives and worldview, for better or worse.