I work with artists scared of putting their craft out there, in case they're judged.
I work with coaches scared of making themselves visible, in case they're judged.
I work with corporate employees scared of saying no, in case they're judged.
I work with women scared of speaking up, in case they're judged.
It's not really the judgement we fear though, is it?
It's the fear that the judgement will feed our own insecurities and shame, and that the judgement will lead to rejection.
Nothing wrong with that.
We're wired for connection, not rejection.
Shame is neither good or bad, but whatever we conclude about ourselves, based on it, can be.
If you fear judgement - congratulation, you're fully human!
But, what has made us stand apart from other animals is to be bold and face our fears.
If this blog is reaching you, you probably live a life of some privilege.
Why not use this privilege to role model what you want to see more of in life?
Women being assertive.
Artists focussing more on showcasing than playing small.
Lift others with your courage by putting yourself out there.
Show vulnerability to demonstrate that this is safe for others to do too.
Stand up against oppression.
Role model boundaries, respect, acceptance, inclusion, healthy choices.
Yes, you will be judged sometimes - by those who don't matter.
But, far more importantly, you'll give a voice to those who do matter.
Yes, you will risk rejection - by those who don't matter.
But, far more importantly, you risk becoming the ripple effect that inspires goodness, bravery, vulnerability and growth in others.
The choice is yours.
Until next time, stay safe - and sane - and make kind choices.
This is a daily, micro-blog, taking less than 2 minutes to read, offering you insights into how presumptions, beliefs and stories shape our lives and worldview, for better or worse.